I have been pondering this question for several months now and my progress has been minimal. When I was in high school and preparing to graduate so many people told me, "Just wait until you get to college...now that's real life." Well, no...it really wasn't. Life was still pretty easy. Yes, I did have a little bit more responsibility but the adjustment wasn't that hard. I had already been doing my own laundry for years and I knew how to cook, so things weren't too hard.
Then people started saying that once I got married real life would finally start. Nope. Still didn't happen. Yes, I was responsible for my husband as well as myself but you know what, Blair takes pretty good care of himself! I make his lunches and do the laundry, but he definitely helps with those things plus more! We did have to start paying the electricity and gas bill, but with both of us working, like we both had since we started college, bills weren't too hard. Rent at our first apartment cost less than our rents combined when we were engaged...so it was definitely manageable.
After I was married people started telling me that once I graduated from college and was working full-time, then I would experience real life. Well I am in this stage right now and it still doesn't feel like real life! I do have bills to pay and other responsibilities, but I feel like Blair and I are still in the stages before real life. He is still in college and won't officially be done for about 8 more years since he still has medical school ahead of him.
Are we in real life now? Will it come in June when we have our baby? What about after we have two kids? Or when Blair finishes medical school? Will it come once we are in our thirties? I think about my parents and Blair's parents and the responsibilities they have and I know they are definitely in real life! Was it an easy and smooth transition or did it hit them all at once? i just feel so young and free from major responsibilities that they have. But if I'm not in real life yet, then what am I in? Fake life??? I think people should be given a certificate to prove that they are now in real life...that would make me feel so much better because I could finally figure out when it actually starts!
I think real life is all the time. It was when you were in elementary school, it was last year, and it is now. I think real life is a process. One of learning and of experience. Each day of your life will prepare you for another day to come. It's all "real" it's just a matter of perspective!
ReplyDeleteLOL..i think you are in real life.. i feel like I am playing house though. haha..I am married and have a hubby who takes care of me...and im still in school. Did you know, i have been in school for the last 17 years of my life?
ReplyDeleteI am a friend of Emily's and pop in once in a while because I think her family is so cool. Anyway, I totally get what you are saying here. I now have 4 kids and feel like I am really in the thick of things (real life). I keep looking back at when I was in High school, married, 1 kid, 2 kids, etc. and think how real life was slowly evolving because if it had happened then I wouldn't have been ready.
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